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It
is estimated that over 19,000 forced terminations of ministers occur per
year in the U.S. I offer this page as a hope and encouragement.
"The LORD bless you,
and keep you; The LORD make His face shine on you, And be gracious to you;
The LORD lift up His countenance on you, And give you peace."
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Links to Sections in this Page
The links below refer to many helpful
websites, articles, retreats, and resources.
Recommended Reading
Links to Websites and Articles
A Prayer for Ministers Under Fire
Psalm 35*
(a paraphrase)
Pray on my behalf, O Beloved, for those who fight against me;
Forgive on my behalf those who abuse me!
Pour forth your strength into my heart that I might stand strong!
Encircle with healing love those who persecute me through fear!
And say to my soul, "I am with you always!"
Melt the hearts of stone in those who seek to kill my body, my spirit.
Turn them around and let them delight in your way.
Let their ignorance become as chaff before the wind,
send angels to lead them home to You.
Let their path become filled with light
that they may see the way of truth!
For without cause they have tried to ensnare me;
without cause they threaten my life.
Surprise them, O Love, with joy!
For ignorance cannot live where your love abides;
Let them rise up with a new conscience
and regret their past acts against others.
Then, O Love, my soul shall rejoice, exulting in your goodness.
My whole being shall say,
"Who, O Beloved, is like you,
you who give strength to the weak, praying on their behalf,
when fear threatens to overwhelm them,
holding them back from retaliation through your saving love?"
False witnesses rise up, asking me questions I cannot answer.
They return my kindness with cruelty; my soul weeps.
Yet I, when they were afflicted
I prayed and fasted and sent them help.
I prayed in my simple way
As though grieving for my family or for a friend;
I acted as one who grieves for a dying mother,
bowed down and in mourning.
Yet when I stumbled and needed assistance,
they gathered about me with glee,
they turned against me;
Even strangers whom I did not know,
mocked me day and night;
They seemed to gather strength in denouncing me,
and became all the more violent.
How long, O Beloved, must I endure this?
Rescue me from the oppressors, my life from the lions!
I long to give thanks in the great assembly,
to praise You wherever people gather.
Fill those who rejoice over my plight with compassion,
Let peace come to those who hate me without cause.
For many desire conflict and war,
and turn against those who are quiet in the land,
they are driven by greed.
By speaking against me saying,
"Aha, you are to blame."
they think to hide their own deceit.
You have seen it all, O Love, be silent no longer!
Beloved, stay close beside me!
Hear me and rise up on my behalf,
let justice and peace reign!
Yes, O compassionate one,
Let truth and love overcome ignorance,
according to your goodness,
that all might rejoice and give thanks!
Foolish are they to think that persecution
will bring them joy;
nor will destruction bring them peace.
Let those who rejoice in another's misfortune,
in their shame become contrite;
Let them be humbled and turn their hearts to you, O Beloved,
all those who know not love!
may all who offer their lives to peace
shout for joy and be glad, and always pray,
"Great are you, O Love,
Who dwell in all open hearts!"
Then shall I sing of your saving justice
and praise You all day long!
*Nan C. Merrill, Psalms for Praying: An Invitation to Wholeness, pp.
62-65,
The Continuum International Publishing Group Inc., New York, NY, 1996.
Recommended Reading...
Flora Slosson Wuellner, Feed My Shepherds: Spiritual Healing and Renewal
for Those in Christian Leadership, Upper Room Books, Nashville, 1998.
ISBN:0-8358-0845-9 Dennis Linn, Sheila Fabricant
Linn, Matthew Linn, Don't Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands that Heal,
Paulist Press, New York, 1997. ISBN-13: 978-0-8091-3704-6
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Links...
Ministering
to Ministers Foundation
(This website has a quarterly publication with
10 years of very helpful articles online. Sample Titles are listed below under
Articles.)
Pastor's Wives Network
Pastor in Residence
Ministry Health
Clergy Abuse
Clergy
Recovery
Faith Mountain
Land O' Lakes Retreat -
Wounded Warrior
(This website has a wealth of information and other links.)
Pastoral Advocacy Center
Pastoral Advocacy Network
Pastors in Pain
(This website has sections for Pastors' kids and for spouses.)
PastorCare
Questgems
(Resources for pastors including placement and hundreds of other links in a well
organized form.)
Encouragement
Dynamics: Home
A ministry of encouragement, restoration, motivation, and education focused on
the needs of pastors for the 21st century.
Shalem
Institute for Spiritual Formation
The Shalem Institute provides in-depth support for contemplative living and
leadership—a way of being in the world that is prayerfully attentive and
responsive to God's presence and guidance. They offer a variety of short and
extended programs.Articles
Is There A Rulebook On
Forced Terminations?
By Charles H. Chandler,
Executive Director, Ministering To Ministers Foundation, Inc.
After facilitating a session
of participants' stories at a Healthy Transitions Wellness Retreat, I was asked,
"Is there a rulebook on forced termination?" He had observed the similar
"dynamics" or "rules" in the stories. At every retreat the participants are
amazed at the similarities in the forced termination experience.
Several years ago, the
psychiatrist assisting with a retreat was appalled as he heard the stories. He
worked extensively with corporations in "downsizing" and noted that none of them
treated employees like the churches treated the retreat participants. He
observed three "dynamic" patterns in all of their stories. ... Read
more in Forced Terminations
(a pdf file).
Job Loss and Kids
By Cris Cannon, originally published in
The Biblical Recorder,
Friday, January 11, 2002
How does a parent explain the loss of a job to a young child? How does a parent
help his or her older children understand that they will be secure despite the
fact that Mom or Dad is not working? How does a parent help his or her teenager
deal with the stigma of "what will my friends think because you have lost your
job?" Despite the economic and emotional factors of losing a job, parents must
also consider the reality of dealing with the concerns of their children during
a time in which they are threatened about the meaning of their own lives. What
are some steps that parents may take to help their children during uncertain
times? ... Read more in Job
Loss and Kids (a pdf file).
Used by permission of Cris Cannon
and the Biblical Recorder.
Below are sample articles, all from Ministering to Ministers Foundation
Journal, "Servant."
(Click on the link below and
from there you can navigate to all the
volumes and articles of the journal "Servant" on their website.)
http://www.mtmfoundation.org/servant.htm
Vol 11, Issue 1, Summer,
2006, - Articles in this volume:
Forced Termination and Recovery
The Perils of Isolation
Forced Termination in 1725
Termination Hurts More than the Minister - Vol.10, Issue 2, Winter
2006
Rejection Hurts, but Joy Comes in the Morning - Vol. 10, Issue 2,
Fall, 2005
The High Cost of Refusing to Forgive - Vol. 10, issue 1, Spring, 2005
Is There Hope for Us When We Fail? - Vol. 10, Issue 1, Spring, 2005
Becoming a Forgiven Person - Vol. 10 issue 1, Spring, 2005
Anger in the Church - Vol. 9, Issue 3, summer, 2004
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Sunsets and sunrises are two of the most beautiful times of the day.
It is intriguing that they envelope the darkness of night. Times of
transition after a forced termination feel like spiritual darkness. So
much of our ordinary ways of relating to and serving God have been
severely disrupted.
The "dark night of the soul" is a term that goes back to John
of the Cross (1600's) from his poem, "The Dark Night." It refers to those
times when we do not have the consolations of our ordinary emotional or spiritual sense of the
presence of God, withdrawn by grace for the purpose of transcending such
dependencies so
we can love God purely for God's sake.
The dark night of the soul may or may not occur during difficult
times. Yet, even so, we find a deep yearning within for that
Presence. We may find ourselves in the truth of 2 Timothy 2:13, "If we are
faithless, He remains faithful, for He cannot deny Himself."
We may also identify with Jeremiah's experience, "But if I say, 'I
will not remember Him or speak anymore in His name,' Then in my heart it
becomes like a burning fire shut up in my bones; And I am weary of holding
it in, And I cannot endure it." (Jeremiah 20:9)
My favorite part of John of
the Cross' poem is stanza 3,
"I went out into that glad night
in secret, for no one saw me,
nor did I look at anything
with no other light or guide
than the one that burned in my heart."
The Psalmist encourages us with these words, "...weeping may last
for the night, but a shout of joy comes in the morning." (30:5b NASB)
Larry Glover-Wetherington
When our soul is plowed up is an opportune time to seek deeper
intimacy with God and understanding of spiritual dynamics. I am a deeply
grateful graduate of two of the extension programs of the Shalem
Institute for Spiritual Formation: the Spiritual Guidance Program and
the Clergy Spiritual Life and Leadership program. For more information
please go to
Shalem
Extension Programs.
"Someone I loved once gave me
a box full of darkness.
It took me
years to understand
that this, too, was a gift."
Mary Oliver, Thirst
Personal Boundaries of Safeguards - Vol. 9, Issue 2, Spring 2004
Are Ministers Becoming an Endangered Species? - Vol. 9 Issue 2,
Spring, 2004
Cynicism: A Spillover from Forced Termination - Vol. 9, Issue 1,
Winter, 2004
Have You Checked Your Church's DNA? - Vol. 9, Issue 1, Winter,
2004
Depression and Ministry: When a Good Soul Feels Bad - Vol. 8, Issue 4,
Fall, 2003
Its Time to Spend More Time Praying than Talking about Prayer - Vol.
8, Issue 4, Fall, 2003
Don't Waste Your Pain - Vol. 8, Issue 3, Summer, 2003
Everyone Loses When Church Members Pit Staff Members against the Pastor -
Vol. 8, Issue 3, Summer, 2003
The Trauma of Forced Termination - an Interview with Henry Langford -
Vol. 8, Issue 2, Spring, 2003
Where Do Hurting Ministers Go for Help? - Vol. 8, Issue 2, Spring,
2003
What Do Ministers Facing Forced Termination Want and Need? - Vol. 8,
Issue 2, Spring, 2003
Take Care of Yourself First! - Vol. 8 Issue 1, January, 2003
The Minister's Sexual Temptations - Vol. 7, Issue 4, October, 2002
Thinking in Systems: A Factor in Good Emotional Health - Vol. 7, Issue
4, October, 2002
Suffer the Children - Vol. 7 Issue 3, July 2002
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